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Mathew Vroman

From the pulpit

Mathew Vroman is the pastor of the Sikeston First Baptist Church.

Be kind to one another

Friday, August 20, 2021

 All over America, videos are surfacing of Americans almost rioting at school board meetings and in public squares because of mask mandates, CRT, and other issues.  Before you stop reading, assuming as a pastor I am going to say some line that sounds like it should be a 1980s love song lyric (get along) please continue.  In fact, I am primarily writing to those who are passionate and excited to do something about an issue by action.  Although I am someone that have passionate views about these issues and think it is great when people get involved, it troubles me when we can't be kind.  As Americans we should be engaged, speak out and lobby for change, but be kind.  Proverbs 15:1 “A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.”  What this means is if your objective is to be heard or win an argument, the key point is stay calm.  Grievous words means words that are cutting (or something bad).  When I see these individuals on all sides angry and yelling about an issue, I know the Bible says all they do is stir the other side up.  Next, control wins the day!  When I see great debaters (like Ben Shapiro) they always remains calm and even laugh at themselves.  It is important to remember the value of staying in control.   “He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.”  (Proverbs 16:32)  It is also important to get to know a person and understanding them.  For example, if you are concerned about an issue at school you should take a minute and reach out to the involved parties first (superintendent, teacher etc.).   It is so much more effective if you establish a relationship before confronting them publically (and many times it will get worked out in private).  Two other points to consider is remember public leaders are very busy and you are not the only voice in the room.  Further, don’t blast them on social media as that is wrong, never fixes an issue, and will cause further division.  The last point that has helped me over the years is to assume the best about the person!  Realize we may disagree, but they want what’s best for the community or kids (if school issue).  Don’t believe everything you read or hear and make sure to validate it.  All of this, article has at its core that whatever issue you are engaged with be kind.    EPHESIANS 4:32 KJV "And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you."

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